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I found a “sister” webblog to my site (or at least how I imagine my site in my mind…) that is worth taking a peek at:

http://meggiecat.blogspot.com/

The Guerilla Parenting Stencils made me laugh out loud!

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social power

“Acquaintances are social power. The more acquaintances you have, the more powerful you are.”
– Malcolm Gladwell, The Tipping Point

Thanks to everyone on live journal for making me so POWERFUL! (meant in a nice, nonnarcisstic way, of course).

Networking Letters

I was reading an article on how to use Networking Letters to build your business or gain new referrals. It interested me because I have been building my private practice up after dropping everything this summer. At the beginning of the summer, I was diagnosed with cancer (everything is fine now) and was too tired from the radiation treatments to see clients. Unfortunately, the law of physics takes over and as they say, things in motion tend to stay in motion and things at rest tend to stay at rest. I had a steady flow of clients prior to taking a break but now it is much harder to get going again. Anyway, if you can relate and need a little rainmaking, here’s the article:

http://networkingtips.monster.com/letters/?subscriber=1&login=0&WT.mc_n=MNW110355

PS – you might have to be a subscriber to view this. If so, and you don’t want to subscribe, email me or reply in the comments section and I will copy and paste it to you…

“Helping Children V.I.E.W. Their Anger”

I just posted this article to my online newsletter and thought it might useful to this community (I am a new member):

“Helping Children V.I.E.W. Their Anger”

Chronically angry children often have trouble gaining insight into their aggression. This can be due to immaturity or stubborn defensiveness. One way for parents and teachers to help angry children understand and cope with their anger is to use the acronym V.I.E.W.

V stands for “validate.” Whatever the reasons for a child’s anger, validate the right to feel what they feel without condoning any innappropriate behavior. Anger is a natural emotion. A child who must squash angry feelings will only find them to rise up even stronger next time.

I stands for “investigate.” Anger is rarely a solitary emotion. Sadness, grief, hurt, or fear are often silent lurkers behind anger. Ineffective efforts to quench anger may be due to the fact that other emotions are fueling its fire. Ask questions about what lead up to the child’s anger and investigate anger’s accomplices. Label them for what they are without judgement.

E stands for “expression.” If anger is a natural emotion and other feelings can accompany it, then encourage a child to express all of their emotions clearly and without hurting self or others. Allow the child to voice their sadness. Let fear be released into conversation. Redirect children to negotiate instead of fighting. Model how this is done.

W stands for “working.” Chronic anger doesn’t always go away quickly. Be patient and continue working the other steps in this acronym. Utilize various resources in the community to assist your child’s anger management. If one approach doesn’t work, try another one but keep working at it faithfully. And most importantly, practice what you preach!

“Helping Children V.I.E.W. Their Anger”

I just posted this to one of my newsletters. Thought others might enjoy it too…

“Helping Children V.I.E.W. Their Anger”

Chronically angry children often have trouble gaining insight into their aggression. This can be due to immaturity or stubborn defensiveness. One way for parents and teachers to help angry children understand and cope with their anger is to use the acronym V.I.E.W.

V stands for “validate.” Whatever the reasons for a child’s anger, validate the right to feel what they feel without condoning any innappropriate behavior. Anger is a natural emotion. A child who must squash angry feelings will only find them to rise up even stronger next time.

I stands for “investigate.” Anger is rarely a solitary emotion. Sadness, grief, hurt, or fear are often silent lurkers behind anger. Ineffective efforts to quench anger may be due to the fact that other emotions are fueling its fire. Ask questions about what lead up to the child’s anger and investigate anger’s accomplices. Label them for what they are without judgement.

E stands for “expression.” If anger is a natural emotion and other feelings can accompany it, then encourage a child to express all of their emotions clearly and without hurting self or others. Allow the child to voice their sadness. Let fear be released into conversation. Redirect children to negotiate instead of fighting. Model how this is done.

W stands for “working.” Chronic anger doesn’t always go away quickly. Be patient and continue working the other steps in this acronym. Utilize various resources in the community to assist your child’s anger management. If one approach doesn’t work, try another one but keep working at it faithfully. And most importantly, practice what you preach!

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Poem: Words to unsay

This is a poem I have been working on for a while. It is something I think we can all relate to:

Words to unsay
never should have
been spoken.

Utterances coming
From thoughtless
heated emotions.

How to undue
what cannot
be undone?

Seek forgiveness!
Covered over
but not forgotten.

Take humble steps
stumble toward
redemption.

Grace is good.
Even better is
prevention.

Looking for a job?

I ran across this website by referral from a friend. Although I am not looking for a job, others might be and this site appears to be a very creative place to go to prep for an interview and land a new job:

http://www.asktheheadhunter.com/

Looks like he has a book too:

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0452278015/parentingtoolbox